DO THIS: Best public speaking advice I have received

I do quite a bit of public speaking.  At one time I spent six months with a TED talk coach.  I believe the TED folks have dove very deep into what makes a compelling presentation, especially of an idea.  And most talks are really selling ideas, getting buy in from the audience on something in a way they were not previously thinking about.

These are the four most important takeaways from that coaching.

  1. Practice out loud. In front of a mirror.
  2. Few slides as possible.  One to three.
  3. Care.  About your subject. About your audience. (see #4)
  4. Honor the time your audience is giving you.  Give value.

 

DO THIS: Test your health age (I am 37 vs 55 biological)

I am a nerd about data.  One thing I constantly do is take different tests which measure different health metrics.  One which has been very scientifically validated is the World Fitness Test.  It is a questionnaire that uses an algorithm to calculate VO2Max so you can take it online.  While I prefer the actual VO2Max test done in the lab, these algorithm results are similar to actual, so their science is good.  I am 55 years old biologically and have the fitness level of a 37-year-old.

DO THIS: Use failure as a “reset” time

Was reading an interview with Fight Club author Chuck Palahniuk and he mentioned this about Brad Pitt:

“Brad Pitt had made some movies he wasn’t particularly happy with – one was Meet Joe Black – and he said every movie is the antidote to the one you just made; that the real blessing of failure is that it is the only thing that gives you the isolation and time to reinvent yourself. If you’re moving from success to success, you don’t have that daydreaming period that will allow you to come up with something new and unique.”

That parallels my experience.  Failure is never fun.  I have been fired before.  I have had companies fail. I have had investments fail, losing millions.  But after failure, a weird thing happens: space opens up.  You are free of the responsibilities to make your last thing “successful” and have the open space to daydream and create.  Remember this: failure opens up space.

 

DO THIS: Apply First Principles Thinking to your Health and Fitness

A couple of years ago I heard Elon Must describing First Principles thinking.   Turns out most of us reason by analogy and we must in order to get through life.  When you pick up a taco, you must trust that every other taco you have eaten in that place has been good and you haven’t gotten sick, so you are very likely to have a good taco.  But if you want to invent a new taco, you have to ask the question, What are the components that make a taco, how do they work together to make a “great” taco?

For the last year I have been applying this way of thinking to my health and fitness.  In the past, I would read a book about a particular fad diet or workout that worked for someone I know, and my monkey mind would say “I can do that, seems to work, I will try it out.”  That is reasoning by analogy.  It worked for X, therefore, it should work for Y.  In health, most of my friends just live how they want and trust that the doctor will fix them when they break. This is reason by analogy.  Turns out a flawed analogy when you dive into medical error rates and start to question your doctor about stuff he doesn’t know about (which is alot – anything outside his/her specialty). So I started to ask myself a couple questions:

  1.  Do I like to work out? or do I want the results of working out?
  2. Do I like to meditate? or do I want the results of lots of meditation?
  3. If I want to build Muscle, is workout X the best way to do that? Or are there faster, better ways?  If the first principle is “build muscle”, is the solution being sold by the “fitness guru” the BEST way?  or Their way?
  4. Does my doctor decide on diagnosis by first principles or by analogy? Does he have time to get to first principles?
  5. Is the “cure” being sold for anything, actually getting at the first principle cause of the problem? or symptoms?

Turns out I got many bad answers.  First principle thinking is hard and causes lots of brain activity.  An analogy is much easier.

Here are a couple of stories where thinking about first principles has changed my decisions on a couple of vectors:

Sinus infections:

I used to have serious chronic sinus infections.  I went to a lot of doctors.  Most prescribed antibiotics or surgery.  One of my friends is a John Hopkin’s trained ENT surgeon.  When I asked him he said (surprise!) “Surgery.”  Hammer, meet nail.  So I asked him how the surgery to make my sinuses larger would fix the root cause which was infection/inflammation.  He said it wouldn’t, there would just be more room for the inflammation and it shouldn’t be a problem.  So I kept looking for something which would fix the underlying problem:  Infection and Inflammation.  I ended up with a sinus rinse which killed it and it has never come back with regular use.  Why treat symptoms if you can figure out the cause?

Fitness: working out

I like to ride by bike and surf.  But are those “fitness strategies”?  Not really.  They are activities.  They do some muscle building and cardiovascular strengthening, but only for those activities.  If I like to surf and bike and want to be fit enough to do those activities, do I just do more of those activities or are there other things that can be done to keep me in top shape for those activities.  The “weekend warrior” problem is real.  Doing an activity you like on a weak base is not a good strategy.  So how to stay fit for the activities I want to do without being a professional at them and taking all my time on them.  I added the Vasper machine twice a week for 20 minutes. Doing that I am able to surf and bike longer and stronger when I can fit in the time for those.  The First Principal is Stay fit with minimum time so when I need fitness, I have it.  I want to be fit, I don’t want to be a professional athlete.  I want to be able to do activities I love, AND have time for work and family and all the rest.

Depression

I used to suffer from bouts of clinical depression.  Is depression caused by a lack of Prozac?  Then why do doctors prescribe Prozac for depression?  Is depression caused by not enough one-hour sessions talking with someone on a couch?  What is the root cause (first principal) of depression?  Depression is a lack of happiness.  Maybe creating more happiness would reverse the happiness/depression balance and tip over.  So I added a gratitude practice, meditation, neuro feedback, and some other things which got to the root cause of the negative emotions and substituted positive emotions.  Depression gone.  This one was one of the most powerful times when I realized that the “CURE” which was being described was NOT getting at the ROOT CAUSE of the issue.  Depression is not a lack of Prozac or talk therapy.  95% of our emotional reactions are triggered by the subconscious which is not the part talking on the couch.  You have to get to the root causes.

Next time you are looking for a solution to any health and

DO THIS: Check your vulnerability to primacy effect

Read the two following list of words that describe two different people.  One is Bad and one is Good.  Which is which?

  1.  EVIL, HATE, ANGER, JOY, CARE, LOVE
  2.  LOVE, CARE, JOY, ANGER, HATE, EVIL

If you said #1 is Bad and #2 is Good, then congratulations you are like 99% of people who look at these lists.  But you are also a victim of the priming effect.  Priming is when the brain subconsciously draws a conclusion based on the first thing it sees, or upon an existing state.  Since the first list of words begins with “Evil, Hate” the brain wants to make that list “Bad”.  The second list begins with “Love and Care” so the brain wants to make that list “Good”.  But in fact both lists are the same, just in reverse order.  So both people are described with exactly the same descriptors, just in a different order.  Both are equal, but the brain wants to choose and put into buckets based on first words.  Beware of Priming Effect in your own decisions.

 

DO THIS: Pay attention to the Stories

“There is no “Truth”.  Only Stories”

Martin Tobias

Yea I said that.  It is a summary of lots that I have learned over the years.  What do I mean?  When I was younger I was often searching for the “Truth”  with a capital “T”.  The ANSWER.  What I have found over time is that more and more things that I thought were “Truth” turned out to be stories that I was told, or that I believed.  And that turns out to be the case for many “scientific facts.”  For example, is the theory of Evolution a “Truth” or a story which matches our current data?  It is a story.  There are facts in there sure, but our current understanding is just a summary of what we know now.  The details of that story are different today than they were 100 years ago.  All scientific “Truths” are in fact our best guess about the Truth based on the data we now know.  So basically the story we explain this complicated thing to ourselves to us today.  100 years from now the story is likely to have evolved.  Hopefully more precise.   I am especially suspicious of “Truths” that are judgments.  For example “Global warming is bad”.  That may be so, and that is a judgment.  “Climate change is happening” is much more precise and free of judgment.

So now when I hear a “Truth”, I ask myself a couple of questions:

  1. What is the story that this person is telling me?
  2. What is the data and assumptions behind that story?
  3. How much of the story is emotion versus data?
  4. Do I choose to believe the story? (knowing I am unlikely to ever have all the data)

DO THIS: One and One

I overheard a conversation about New Years resolutions last week. In it the guys were talking about long lists of New Years resolutions. And I of course was thinking about my own. But then for some reason a snippet from Milan Kundera quote popped into my head “there are only two ways to define the self: addition and subtraction.” That has always rung true to me. I switch between addition and subtraction. When the to do lists get too long often I will simplify it to just one of each. Out of all the possible things I could do (addition) and not do (subtraction), what is the most impactful one of each I tan think of for this project? For 2019 mine are

Add: more personal time with my employees at upgrade labs

Subtract: poker

DO THIS: Stoic tasks to fill the time

Today from Daily Stoic, came a list of tasks which I am finding useful.  When you have half an hour, pick up one of these and do it.  It will build character.

[*] Throw away or give away stuff you have but don’t use anymore.

[*] Skip a meal. You’ll be fine. Remember what hunger feels like.

[*] See if you can go an hour without talking.

[*] Wear your worst clothes out. See how little anyone cares.

[*] Don’t read. Don’t do anything. Just sit there.

[*] Throw a rock up in the air. Watch it go up and watch it go down. (This is a metaphor.)

[*] Find something you’re not good at and practice being better at it. Write with your non-dominant hand, etc.

[*] If today was your last day on earth, who would you thank? Thank them. Who would you apologize to? Apologize to them. Who would you cherish? Cherish them.

[*] Take a walk.

[*] Think of the worst thing someone has ever done to you. Now say to yourself, “I forgive you.”

[*] Step outside tonight and just look up at the stars.