The kind of joy that exists without a proximate cause. Joy experienced just by being in the world without anything specific happening. Often achieved during meditation. Like the sun that is always shining above the clouds, this kind of joy is always there to be accessed. A benefit of meditation is recognizing that this kind of thing exists and can be tapped into at any time. This is the only kind of sustainable joy. Happiness over the long term is only possible through this kind of joy.
This is my own wording of non-energetic joy as described in Joy on Demand: The Art of Discovering the Happiness Within by the Jolly good fellow from Google. The original Pali word is Sukha which the most Buddhists translate somewhat differently. And should never by confused with Suka, the Slavic insult that means “shut up bitch”.
Some quotes from Tan re: the two kinds of joy: “Our lack of joy is certainly not for lack of ways to gratify our egos and senses. However, the joy that comes from these sources is inherently problematic since it depends on external factors out of our control.” “By contrast, joy that comes from within – from a peaceful mind as a result of taking a few breaths, joy from being kind toward others (which involves other people but does not depend on them), joy from our own generosity, joy from doing the right thing – all this joy is ours to have, independent of circumstances.” Yea I want more of that one please.
The opposite is energetic joy which in Pali is Piti. Joy that requires a cause. Like someone saying they love you. Or receiving an award. Or buying something you have wanted for a long time. In my experience you can’t string together a happiness with alot of instances of Piti. Although I have certainly tried mightily.
I find both these concepts very useful. You can’t really find joy or happiness without understand the different forms. The effortless forms, the forms that are achieved by letting go and waking up are the sustainable, always available forms. All others are short lived and dead ends.
Want a formula for instant wealth?
Trade your expectations for appreciation.
Your entire life will change in that instant. In my experience, lack of appreciation is the only thing that will make you truly poor. I personally define “wealth” as “having enough.” When you have enough of anything, you are wealthy in that thing. Only you can decide when you have “enough.” Unfortunately many of us let others (society, family, friends, work) decide what “enough” is.
I know what you are thinking. Webster defines “wealth” as “a large amount of money and possessions.” Yes, but further on it says “abundant supply”. Now that leaves room for judgement of what “abundant” is as well as supply of what? When your life has an abundant supply of expectations, goals, precursors to fulfillment, it is VERY hard to feel wealthy. You never admit to yourself that you have “enough.”
Appreciation on the other hand works exactly the opposite way. When you have an “abundant supply” of appreciation, it is VERY hard to NOT feel wealthy. You see the value in everything you have and do not pine after more. You have “enough.”
So try it for a day. Whenever you find yourself feeling the pull of expectations, stop and replace it with appreciation. For example, you see a guy in a Ferrari and the expectation that you want one too grabs your brain. Stop, look around your own car. Is it better than the car you had 10 years ago? Appreciate it. Thank the car you have for being there for you. Bam! You are wealthy.
You cannot change the world, but you can change how you react to it.
I just created this one myself. Super fun brain teaser!
Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I heard about this book from a couple pod casts and an NPR interview. Then Sebastian was in my town on a book tour. I had read his other books and was interested in one core idea that seemed quite revolutionary. Could PTSD be primarily not about trauma but about loss of purpose and poor social reintegration ?
That rang true to me. Junger explains this Thesis very well and documents historical and research to support the thesis. Basically there are well known ways to get through trauma but they lean on basically a communal society’s where everyone feels some sense of common duty and shared responsibility and every person has a way to contribute. In modern America with all our independence and two party systems and stratified work place and closed hate neighborhoods and private schools and single apartments and single occupancy vehicles, how is someone supposed to feel a part of anything?
This book will give you a brain work that will be hard to get rid of. In. A good way.
Words are powerful. And complicated. And contextual. And the reader bring their own definitions. And a writer has his own frame/context when choosing which words to use.
Consider this: “Capital letters are the difference between helping your Uncle Jack off a horse and helping your uncle jack off a horse.”
In this section, I will share my personal definitions and context for words which are particularly important to my journey. This is not a dictionary and your understanding of these words may vary. That is the point. In this section, you can get a deeper understanding of where I am coming from. Comments welcome, my understanding will be updated over time (i hope).